- i used to be excited for it.
- when i was younger, i made "mom coupons," for cleaning, cooking on weekdays and massages. she disliked them.
- as a teen, i bought my mom expensive jewelry, but it was never the right kind. bought her pearls, she wants gold. bought her gold, she wanted silver. bought her silver, she wanted diamond. bought her a diamond, but it wasn't big enough.
- as a young adult, i bought her a gift certificate for a massage, and a brunch at a really nice restaurant. she didn't eat any of the exotic foods she said she wanted to try, and requested a burger. then, she let the certificate expire, after she said that she needed a massage and a spa day.
- normally, i would send her flowers, but i didn't this year.
- i find myself triggered when i see mothers and daughters getting along, and doing something my mom enjoys. like, it was hard for me to see mothers and daughters shopping, or at restaurants, or walking through the mall together, because those activities are often fraught with a lot of shame.
- as a not so young adult, i just text her or send her a gift if i have the money for it. that's about all i want to do.
- since my best friend is a mother, i sent her chocolates to celebrate the holiday. that was kinda nice.
may 10 2020 ∞
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