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Rubab: shi'a warrior princess, lover of beauty, poet, seeker

twitter // twitter.com/lighthoused
blog // lilacmuse.home.blog
tumblr // lilacmuse.tumblr.com

bookmarks:
lisa events
LA BIKE RIDES
family (Will Smith on Fatherhood)
about me (I don't love)
christina notes (to do (07.12.20))
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Physical

  • When his smile reaches his eyes and makes them warmer/softer
  • A well-groomed beard
  • Dark hair & dark eyes
  • Taller than me
  • Slightly muscular arms
  • Soothing/deep voice
  • Glasses optional
  • Shirt sleeves rolled up to his elbows = kryptonite
  • Smells faintly of soap/cologne/aftershave/'itr
  • Classy, understated style

Behavior

  • When he has a deep love of God and the Ahlulbayt (as)
  • When he has the kind of masculinity that feels safe and protective, rather than threatening or aggressive
  • When he's able to be dominant without being controlling or possessive
  • When he's openly captivated by my thoughts and values my opinions
  • When he's reserved & holds back around other women, but is open & talkative around me
  • When he treats the people around him with kindness
  • When he gives me his undivided attention in a crowded room
  • When he looks into my eyes and truly sees me
  • When he can't stop smiling because my presence makes him happy
  • When he has a witty, playful sense of humor
  • When he knows he's good enough for me but never takes me for granted
  • When he gives me the freedom to explore & express every side of my personality without judgment or restraint
  • When he finds my complexity appealing
  • When he talks about something he's passionate about and his eyes light up, his facial expressions become more animated, and I can almost taste his enthusiasm
  • When he seems genuinely interested in what I have to say and remembers things later
  • When he doesn't change himself to please me, but is attentive to what I like
  • When he isn't afraid to take initiative & be honest about what he wants
  • When he makes his feelings and intentions clear & doesn't leave me guessing
  • When he lets me see his soft side
  • When he compliments & validates me often
  • When he has a wide variety of interests or a cool mix of hobbies, no matter how different from mine
  • When he loves animals and kids
  • When he enjoys physical activity, working out, sports, etc
  • When he teaches me something I didn't already know, no matter the subject/area
  • When he doesn't define his value as a person by his job or income
  • When he has a strong connection to culture and family values
  • When he accepts my flaws/shortcomings and doesn't hold them against me
  • When he seems in sync with my needs and is honest about his
  • When he looks physically strong enough to throw me around

Dealbreakers

  • Arrogance
  • Bad temper
  • Emotionally cold
  • Flirtatious with other women
  • Abusive tendencies
  • Views others as beneath him
  • A lack of religious practice
  • A lack of empathy
  • A lack of passion
  • A lack of trust
  • A lack of respect
  • Poor communication
  • Takes me for granted
  • Doesn't respect my feelings
  • Hates physical activity

x r

jul 27 2018 ∞
jul 11 2020 +