Physical

• When his smile reaches his eyes and makes them warmer/softer
• A well-groomed beard
• Dark hair & dark eyes
• Taller than me
• Slightly muscular arms
• Soothing/deep voice
• Glasses optional
• Shirt sleeves rolled up to his elbows = kryptonite
• Smells faintly of soap/cologne/aftershave/'itr
• Classy, understated style

Behavior

• When he has a deep love of God and the Ahlulbayt (as)
• When he has the kind of masculinity that feels safe and protective, rather than threatening or aggressive
• When he talks about something he's passionate about and his eyes light up, his facial expressions become more animated, and I can almost taste his enthusiasm
• When he knows he's good enough for me but never takes me for granted
• When he isn't afraid to take initiative & be forthcoming about his feelings & desires
• When he's openly captivated by my thoughts and values my opinions
• When he understands me in ways that other people can't
• When he gives me his undivided attention in a crowded room
• When he seems genuinely interested in what I have to say and remembers things later
• When he has a witty, playful sense of humor
• When he gives me the freedom to express every side of my personality without judgment or restraint
• When he's dependable, trustworthy, & responsive to my needs
• When he's curious & has a wide variety of interests, no matter how different from mine
• When he finds my complexity appealing
• When he bares his innermost thoughts and feelings without hesitation or apology
• When he's reserved & holds back around other women, but is open & affectionate with me
• When he can't stop smiling because my presence makes him happy
• When he looks into my eyes and truly sees me
• When he doesn't change himself to please me, but is attentive to what I like
• When he treats the people around him with kindness
• When he lets me see his soft side
• When he compliments & validates me often
• When he loves animals and kids
• When he enjoys physical activity, working out, sports, etc
• When he teaches me something I didn't already know, no matter the subject/area
• When he doesn't define his value as a person by his job or income
• When he has a strong connection to culture and family values
• When he accepts my flaws/shortcomings and doesn't hold them against me
• When he seems in sync with my needs and is honest about his
• When he looks physically strong enough to throw me around

Dealbreakers

• Too materialistic/money-driven
• Overly cynical
• Bad temper
• Abusive
• Irreligious
• Emotionally cold
• Flirtatious with other women
• Views others as beneath him
• A lack of empathy
• A lack of passion
• A lack of trust
• A lack of respect
• Poor communication
• Takes me for granted
• Hates physical activity

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