i am a white cis who can pass as hetero; i understand what a privilege that is. however, it hurts to know some of the lgbtq community believes increased ace awareness and validation will take away from their own struggle, like it will divide resources or something. there are so few sex-repulsed aces out there, that i already feel so alone.

• "it's just a phase"
• "you haven't found the right person yet"
• "you can't know you don't like it if you won't try it"
• "who hurt you to make you like this"
• "but don't you want kids"
• "do you want to die alone"
• "i don't know who fucked you up like that, but i'll fuck some sense back in you"
• "i'll pray for you to be able to overcome this affliction"
• "you just think it's cool to be different"
• "haven't you even tried to get better, to beat this thing"
• "ace isn't a real thing; all humans need sex"

i have never lied about my orientation or tried to pass as straight just to fit in. i don't want a round of applause or a letter in the "alphabet soup." i just want to be a person in a community who are working towards the same goals. i just want to be in this together.