➜ 10 commandments for an infj

• you can do anything, but you can't do everything. passions come first, interests come second. fuck the rest.
• know the difference between kindness and politeness. there's a time for both, one, or neither.
• maintaining balance is the key to happiness. falling off center will happen. just know when to bring yourself back.
• discern core values from fleeting beliefs. be unapologetic and principled when it counts. be open-minded and adaptive when it may not.
• assertiveness breeds contentment and stability. passivity breeds resentment and emptiness.
• every step towards success should be accompanied by a lesson in humility. stop. step back from your pride. open your eyes and ears. close your damn mouth.
• perfectionism is toxic to the soul. it will destroy you if you let it. you will inevitably fail and that's not only okay, but crucial for subsequent growth.
• authenticity will always be the best, yet most difficult path to choose. sacrifice the temporary high that follows external validation from others.
• vulnerability often reflects strength and stoicism often causes weakness. be courageous. lean on someone when you need to.
• some people deserve walls, but some deserve open windows. take the leap each time you're unsure.

➜ on boundaries

• it is not my job to fix others.
• i don't have to anticipate the needs of others
• it is okay if others get angry
• it is not my job to take responsibility for others
• it is my job to make me happy
• i have a right to my own feelings
• i am enough

➜ quick reminders

• a cura é um ato de comunhão.
• o amor redime.
• o espaço de nossa falta também é o espaço da possibilidade.
• sermos amorosos não quer dizer que não seremos traídos: find the confidence to keep believing that sweetness and kindness matter.
• a presença da dor em nossa vida não é um indicativo de disfunção.
• amar bem é a tarefa em todas as relações significativas.
• rigid vs. flexible

➜ on art

• living like an artist, by heather havrilesky
• what i talk about when i talk about running, haruki murakami
• letters to a young poet, rainer maria rilke
• romancista como vocação, haruki murakami

➜ from songs

• eu sou minha mãe, minha filha, meu pai, minha tia, eu sou meu apoio. eu sou minha irmã, eu sou minha, só minha
• don't fall for all the blame, don't rely on the applause
• better keep your planet spinning, better keep the motive tall