See that's the thing. You don't get to be that lazy anymore. That's the problem.

For example, I can no longer answer my phone unless I have no distractions and have pen and paper in hand. It's a hard rule. Because any phone call I take is going to have someone asking me to write SOMETHING down. If I don't have pen and paper to write down THAT SECOND, I forget (like you). So, I don't get to do that.

I guess what I'm saying is I know me now. I no longer get to pretend "Oh, I'm normal like everyone else, so I'll write that down when I get to it. Other people can, so I can too." No. Not me. I will always forget, sometimes 5 seconds later. Instead of trying to change my brain (after 3 decades, it ain't changing) I change my LIFESTYLE.

I am an adult with a job. I don't get the luxury of "forgetting" or I get fired and lose my house. I do these things because they are necessary. I don't get to be "lazy". I have no choice but to make these lifestyle changes to be responsible.

So, when someone says "Hey, want to go to the movies this Saturday?" I have no choice but to take my phone out (or my calendar on my computer), see if I'm free, and if I am, I have to enter the event in my calendar THAT SECOND. I don't get to say "I'll do it in the car" or "in 5 seconds" or "as soon as I get home". You KNOW it's not going to happen. You KNOW what it's like to forget. Well, maybe for you as a college senior, you can forget stuff and that's fine, you fail a class, no biggie. For ME, a client calls - "Get that to me by Friday" - I have no choice. I don't get to say "Okay, I'll remember to get that to them by Friday, I'm sure I won't forget." I HAVE to write it down then and there, because I know my brain is super unreliable. I can't let things slip through the cracks or I lose my business. It's a priority to me.

Here's another way of putting it (I use this with my employees). Suppose I tell you "I need you here Saturday at 5 a.m. If you make it great, if not, no biggie." You probably won't write it down, and chances are you may not show up. Now, imagine if I say "I need you here Saturday at 5 a.m., and if you're here on time, dressed and ready to work, I will give you $50,000 dollars. If you arrive at 5:01 a.m., you will not receive a penny. If you show up unkempt or out of your work clothes, you will not receive a penny. You MUST be here at or before 5:00 a.m. sharp, dressed, groomed, and ready, and you will receive $50,000 dollars." I guarantee you, you will write it down in three places, you will set 5 alarms, you will tell 3 friends to call you to wake you super early, you'll leave the house WAY earlier than normal, you'll be in that office parking lot by 4:30 a.m., shoes shined, shirt buttoned, hair combed, looking fantastic. Why? Because you'll be MOTIVATED. You'll do what it takes to get that $50,000. Imagine how gutted you'd feel if you forgot to write it down, woke up at 8 a.m. on Saturday, and realized that you just pissed away $50,000. Would you even take a CHANCE on that happening? No matter how lazy you are? I hope not.

So that is how I treat my life. I treat my job, my clients, my friends, my family, and my responsibilities as if I have $50,000 on the line. Now, maybe it's not actually worth $50,000. But my integrity, reputation, and my word are at stake. If I say I'll be there, I'll be there. If I say I'll meet the deadline, I'll meet the deadline. If I say I'll do the assignment, I do the assignment. My word is my bond, and that's gotten me farther in my career and my social standing than $50,000. People rely on me because I am rock-solid. And that is because I write shit down.

The choice is always up to you.

My PTSD causes similar symptoms. Here's how I've helped.

In my case the problem wasn't so much that I forgot, but that I never remembered in the first place. See your brain's short term memory has to get encoded into long term memory for you to even recall it later. The problem was that something interrupted that encoding process and resulted in lots of "lost time" or memories that just never existed.

So, what I do now is talk to myself a lot. Wen I come home, I actually say to myself "I'm putting my keys, watch, wallet and ring in their spot." That helps force the memory encoding process. It helps to have a spot for that stuff.

Second, I have to be really organized, which is hard because I also have apathy issues. I get all the next day's clothes ready before bed and down to shoes and socks. I can't tell you how many times I hunted all over the house looking for a pair of shoes and was late for work.

Hope that works out for you.

My girlfriend does this constantly and she doesn't understand why I want her to stop the anxiety memes and constant self bashing. She thinks she's just trying to make light of her depression when she's really exacerbating it. I asked her if she could told our towels differently, she sighed and said she should kill her self. It's just plainly ugly behavior and I don't know how to help her. https://www.reddit.com/r/selfimprovement/comments/a7r4zc/selfdeprecating_humor_is_not_cute/

Those jokes are all fun and all until everyone thinks you're a Real loser in every situation of the life.and now nobody takes you seriously. I do like these jokes tho but in a limit otherwise you'll end up like me who is now just a loser in important situations. At the moment you,are joking about yourself you think other people have same level of sarcasm as you, to get that it was just a mistake and there was something funny in it. Most people also have strong ego - they think they are superior to you because you make fun of yourself but they don't get that it was just for fun. It takes a lot of time to get out of that LOSER phase