- Fitness, health, sense of style/dressing
- Emotional wellness (past traumas dealt with, receiving/surrendered mindset, feeling positive, methods in place for dealing with hamstering)
- ✔ Having found purpose/sense of meaning (could be education, checking off a goal you’ve wanted to fulfil, volunteering, community)
- ✔ Communication skills (good listening skills, body language, articulation, being well-read in areas of interests)
- ✔ Decent support system (feminine mindset friends, close relationships with friends and/or family members). Be kind to everyone, especially other women.
- Finances (the ability to support oneself, clearing of debt or plan in place to clear debt)
- 1 or 2 Hobbies (for yourself, not for a guy)
- Basic cooking and domestic skills. Maybe know how to cook around 10 solid dishes well
- Vetting - knowing how to vet a guy. Identifying prior toxic patterns in your relationships if necessary and recalibrating your picker.
- Confidence - Writing down and setting personal boundaries/dealbreakers and trusting yourself and gut to follow through. Be willing to walk away when disrespected.
- ✔ Availability - Making room for a new man in your life by sending right signals. This includes clearing out/limiting interactions with exes, orbiters, and politely declining invitations from pursuers you’re not interested in instead of leading them on.
- Assertiveness - Understanding that submission is not equivalent to being a doormat and should be given gradually, according to how the man responds. Understanding “feeling bad” or having a meal bought for you or excusing a man’s disrespectful behavior is not good reason to have sex with him. If you feel pressured to do anything, it’s a red flag, no matter how much chemistry you feel.
- ✔ Sensuality - Being in touch with your own body, loving your own body and feeling sexy. Knowing what makes you feel good. Especially so if you’re a conservative woman so you don’t end up starfishing when you meet Prince Charming. Treating yourself to spas, luxurious body scrubs, bath and wine, and whatever makes you feel sexy.
- ✔ Resilience - “hope for the best, expect the worst” mindset. Accept that there are still risks at the end of the day and that you can do everything right, but still have things not work out.
jul 3 2020 ∞
oct 15 2020 +