• U can't be shorter than me, if u aren't at least 5'6" this isn't gonna work out. I generally like my guys at LEAST 5'9", but I will bend in either direction on this.
• U must be into sports and be somewhat athletic either in practice or appearance. Be willing to teach me something about sports, I love all aspects of it.
• U have to love dogs, I have 4, they come first. Deal with it and show a lil puppy love.
• U have to have a great smile. I spend most of my time trying to make people laugh, if u don't have a pretty smile and straight white teeth I can't be with u.
• Don't be conceited. Its ok if I think the world of u, but its not cute if U act like the world revolves around u. Its ok to be humble, modest, and practice a lil humility.
• If u have beautiful eyes that's a major plus, though not a general requirement. Not only can they be a pretty color, but I also appreciate a nice eye shape or the intensity of their stare.
• U HAVE to make me laugh. A great sense of humor is one of the most important things to me. If u can't be silly around me and laugh at urself and me then it really would never work. I appreciate sarcasm and dirty humor, I have a guy's sense of humor so let's be crazy and laugh all night long.
• U have to have a job. I can barely support myself let alone u. I don't care what kind of job u have as long as its legal and u are trying ur best at it.
• U can't look like a mountain man. Well groomed facial hair is ok as long as there is more skin showing than hair. Light stubble can be very sexy too but I don't like it all the time. I like a clean shaven chest, I don't want to feel pricklies on my face when I lay on ur chest, it doesn't feel good. Look a lil professional please.
• U should have ur own car. If ur taking me out and keeping me out late its only right that u pick me up and drop me back off so I'm safe and sound. I don't mind paying for gas occasionally. If u don't have a car at least offer to pay for my cab even if I refuse the gesture.
• If ur a good cook that's great. If u know how to make healthy things that's even better. I will love u for life if u are a pro at making italian dishes, but seeing as though I don't eat them anymore I'm gonna need u to be able to make other things cuz I'm not really a great cook.
• U HAVE to want kids. I don't need them now but I will in the near future and if u are the type that doesn't want kids or don't think u'll make a good dad then don't waste my time cuz having children is the most important thing to me.
• It would work very well in ur favor if u were Catholic. I have my religion, I'm NOT converting to urs, and my children WILL be raised Catholic. I'm not observing any of ur holidays and neither will my children. I will tolerate some other Christian denomenation.
• I LOVE nicknames and welcome even the silliest ones. If u have one for me please share.
• Someone that drinks should not bother wasting my time. I come from a family of alcoholics and don't want that toxic lifestyle touching any aspect of my relationship or life. Not even an occasional social drink is okay and I will not tolerate hard liquor consumption or u coming home to me drunk...absolutely NEVER.
• I don't like guys who smoke, its not sexy kissing an ashtray or smelling like one so please kick the habit if I matter to u. I care enough about u to want u healthy, care enough about me to not blow smoke into my lungs.
• I will NEVER accept a guy that does drugs. Grow the f*ck up, ur not a teen anymore. Its gross, destructive, and can kill u. I will try not to judge u for using drugs in ur youth but u have to have the habit kicked by the time u get with me. Drug use is UNACCEPTABLE!!!
• I appreciate random text messages throughout the day. I adore the sweet ones and go crazy over the naughty ones. Its nice when u let me know I've been on ur mind by shooting me a random text.
• U should be encouraging about me getting involved in my fitness, but don't be overzealous to the fact that I don't feel like u like me just the way I am without the weight loss. Compliment me but don't make me feel uncomfortable about it.
• I love to be called beautiful instead of pretty or hot. I need to feel that u are genuine when u say it so use it sparingly, over use causes it to lose its substance. I like being called cute too.
• Know the difference between love making and wild crazy sex, there is a big difference and both are welcomed. U have to feel out the mood to decide which is appropriate for what times.
• U have to be smart, I cannot stress how much I hate ghetto talk and for u to use only half a brain. College education is a major plus. I need to be able to hold deep intelligent conversations with u at times. But don't be a know it all, there is only room for one of us around ;)
• If u play a musical instrument and sing, that is a HUGE plus. U can easily win my heart by singing me a romantic song. And if u play the piano OMG I'll be head over heels (especially if u can teach me how to play), but I also really adore the sound of an acoustic guitar.
• I won't fault u if u have been previously married or already have a kid, but I'd much prefer if u are a clean slate with no previous family. I would love for ur life to begin with me and us to start a family together. If by chance u do have a child already, I will love it like its my own, because that's just the kind of person I am.
• The one thing that is a sure fire way to end a relationship with me is if u cheat. That is the worst kind of betrayal and I will never stand for that again. I will NEVER cheat on u, pay me the same courtesy. If ur unhappy, end things, maybe then we can still be friends.
• If we are around ur friends be courteous and introduce me to them so I know that I matter. And if we are around ANY female friends u MUST introduce me as ur girlfriend without my prompting. I don't know who these girls are to u, I'm gonna immediately assume u've either had some sort of involvement or that they have interest in u. Its a girl thing, don't make me feel insecure or jealous by being the title-less girl at ur side.
• U have to be a good kisser or willing to learn to be a good kisser by my example. Nothing turns me on more than kissing. If u can't kiss well its ok, but let me teach u how to kiss the way I like it. If ur not willing to learn then I don't know what to do with u.
• Keep the lines of communication open. I won't know how u feel unless u tell me. As long as we're still talking we're putting in a firm effort into keeping our relationship thriving and afloat, that's all anyone can really ask for.
• U should have some sort of goal as to the direction u want ur life to go within the next 5 years. Do u want kids? A house? A new job? To get married? I need to know that I'm apart of something real and that begins with dating a grown up.
• Be tactful and polite, chivalrous and courteous. I've dated enough thoughtless jerks in my life, I need someone to consider me for a change. Someone that shows me respect and basic human decency will always warrant my attention.
• Try to have a lil patience. I'm not the easiest person to deal with, I can be a pain in the ass, make u wanna pull ur hair out and nag u over things that u don't wanna hear about but I ALWAYS do things out of love. If I nag u about something its cuz its for ur best interest, I'm okay with not being popular with u if I know its something that's good for u. Try to consider where I'm coming from before u get angry with me.
• I'm not one of those girls that's a huge fan of cuddling but I do like it if we're home watching a great movie together under a warm blanket. There's no place I'd rather be than in ur arms.
• I'm incredibly impatient and hate to be left hanging, so if u say ur gonna call at a certain time then call, if we're supposed to see eachother don't bail on our plans and cancel on me, and if we're texting each other don't take 20 years to respond, nothing works my nerves more.
• Never EVER call me a b*tch or a c*nt. It infuriates me to the point where I can get physically violent and have no recollection of what I've done. Trust me, this HAS happened before.
• Please wear nice smelling cologne, I tend to like to cozy up to the crook of ur neck and sneak a kiss in. Gross cologne doesn't invite me to do that. To get a sense of my fragrance preferences check out Acqua di Gio or Emporio Armani...those are my favorite colognes on a guy.
• Please understand that u don't need to break the bank taking me out or buying me things. I'm not materialistic and am happy with small thoughtful gestures. I appreciate things made by hand and from the heart, I like quiet nights in, and have no problem paying for things or going dutch. If u wanna buy me expensive things and can afford to do that, that's unnecessary but great, I will appreciate it, but don't for one second think that money impresses me. All I need from u is U.
• I find tattoos and piercings extremely sexy, if u have some, then yay, if not then get some and make them good. FYI: quote or religious tattoos ar my favorite, and nipple and labret piercings are so hot.
• Be tough but not a trouble maker. I need a guy that can protect me and defend my honor if need be, a guy who can fight, but not an unnecessarily violent guy that's a bully.
• Satisfy my need to have morning sex, quickie sex, public sex, love making, sex raw, rough sex, and the occasional marathon sex...I can be a lil bit of a nympho and I need to know u can hang.
• I'm a fan of PDAs. Holding hands in public, hugging, sneaking lil kisses, draping ur arm around me, putting ur hand in my back pocket as we walk so u can give me a lil squeeze...I love all that. I don't need full on overdone makeout sessions right in the open, that's rude and nobody wants to see that. But if ur not my bf don't do these things, I have personal space issues it will weird me out if u touch me affectionately and we're not in an intimate relationship.
• I ADORE dimples, nothing makes a smile sexier than cute lil dimples. If u have them u are nearly irresistible to me. Please flaunt them.
• U should be able to enrich my life by broadening my scope of the world. Share ur ideas, introduce me to new movies, books, hobbies, foods, music...I want to be able to grow through u.
• U should be romantic. I enjoy cheesy girl things like laying out under the stars together, or surprising me with my favorite flowers, hugs from behind, kisses on the hand, watching the sun rise or set together, talking til dawn...I'm a real girly girl in that sense.
• U don't have to like my family or close friends but u WILL respect them. There's no reason why all the important people in my life can't coexist. If u don't have anything nice to say, simply say nothing at all. If u have a real issue with someone, address it to me and I will take it up with them and deal with it. Know ur place, they were there first and WILL outlast u if u can't get it together. If u try to force me to choose, that request alone will force me NOT to choose u.
• U HAVE to have good hair, I love it straight and dark, nothing is sexier than a brunette but I may bend on the color. But it has to be of good texture and quality, I don't like curly hair, may accept someone with wavy hair, but love straight, spiky, pretty boy hair the most cuz I like to run my hands through it. If u don't have hair like that then I hope u keep ur head shaved...bald can be sexy too.
• U have to be honest. I hate head games and don't like mixed messages. I will respect ur honesty even if I don't agree with what u have to say. And please note that omissions are in fact betrayals.
• I want u to love me without reservation and know u can trust me even though I find it hard to trust people. U should willingly give me all the time I need to get there so I can feel comfortable in my decision and never make me regret taking a chance on u. I will never tell u I love u if I don't so trust in the words that come out my mouth, im very genuine.
• I find accents extremely sexy but this isn't required, its just a perk. My favorite accents are Australian, Southern, British, and Irish.
• I would prefer u circumsized, I've never been a huge fan of the foreskin look. But I have been involved with uncircumsized men so this isn't set in stone. When it comes to penises, I like them pretty. And hygiene is very important so if u are uncut, make sure ur thoroughly clean at ALL times.
• U really need to be a good listener, I love to talk and need an audience. U don't need to respond to what I say, sometimes I just like to hear myself talk. At times I will attempt to talk to u about things serious in nature, I'm gonna need u to really pay attention, not half listen like most guys do and when necessary and solicited, offer advice.
• I'm gonna need u to help me get motivated at times. I always have trouble pinpointing where my ambitions lay, and require a stern talking to in order to get on the right path. I second guess myself so I need u to encourage me as best u can.
• It is a major turn off if u are OVERLY sensitive. I don't mind if during a super sad movie u cry or if something sad happened to u and ur hurting so u breakdown a lil. But I can't respect u as a man if for every lil reason u cry at the drop of a hat. I'M the woman, don't try and assume my role and in turn I won't try and assume urs as a man. Be my big tough man, not some weepy sad sack.
• I won't lie, u have to be a cutie. I don't need a gorgeous model type but I need to be able to look at u and get excited about seeing u. I don't need u perfect, lil flaws can be endearing, but a nice smile and proportionate features are a must. I absolutely LOVE pretty boy white boys, but I prefer cute over gorgeous any day.
• Don't try to control me, I'm rebellious by nature and will do the exact opposite of what u expect from me just to prove a point. U are not my parent, I don't have to listen to u. Express ur concerns and I will take them into consideration, but never order me to do something or be possessive, I don't respond well to that and u will find urself without a girlfriend just as fast as those words left ur mouth.
• Be my friend. I would love to fall in love with someone that I am friends with or turn my lover into one of my best friends. I am NOT trying to replace ur best friend cuz there is no way u could replace mine, but it would be nice if I could be one of them. Friendship is a good foundation in a relationship I think.
• Don't be mad if I beat u in video games, sports, or any hobby u think u excel at. I will not lose to u on purpose just to stroke ur ego. U should be happy to have a girl that challenges u and can have fun doing the things u do. Appreciate it, not all girls would take the time to engage in the things that u like doing.
• I am very old fashion when it comes to family life. I have always envisioned working and then having kids and being a stay at home mom until they can go to school. I believe that during ur child's formative years no one should raise them but u. U should be the one teaching them right from wrong, instilling their core values, and showing them that they mattered so much to u that u put them first. So I would need u to be supportive of that and want the same thing. After they start school I will go back to work, or while they are growing up, work from home. My kids come first, I don't care what u say or how u feel about my decision.
• I'm not a makeup wearer, the most I wear is lip gloss and mascara. I need a guy willing to appreciate my natural beauty and that will think I'm even more beautiful without makeup than I am with it.
• I am not perfect, I have many flaws, please don't put me up on a pedestal and then get disappointed when I don't meet ur ridiculous expectations of me. I am who I am, and I like who I am, don't try and change me, accept me for who I am...flaws and all.
• I need u to be comfortable with my medical condition. Diabetes affects the whole body and most people don't realize that. I need u to be aware of the symptoms of both high and low blood sugars. And I need u to learn how to give me my insulin injections in case, God forbid, I can't give them to myself. Its a big responsibility but u taking the time to learn about my condition and keep me safe shows that u really do care.
• If u drive a motorcycle that's a huge turn on. I've always wanted to hop on the back of one of those, wrap my arm around my guy, and feel the wind zipping through my hair. At the same time, they are extremely dangerous and every moment u are on one I would be scared u would be side swiped by some car, crash and die. I'm on the fence with this one.
• I would love for u to be real handy, a Mr. Fix It type. I can't change a tire or oil (not that I have a car), fix a leaky pipe, patch up a hole in the wall, paint the walls properly, or anything else that requires me to fix things with my hands. If u can do that, that is awesome cuz that makes u a real guy's guy and I find that very sexy. And I would love it if u would take the time to teach me these things, I like being independent.
• Please note that girls just want to have fun. I am a HUGE flirt, as u should know by now if ur with me. I can flirt with an entire room full of people. Its not that I'm easy, I'm just trying to reassure myself that I still got it. But if we are in a relationship and committed to one another I won't even look at another guy, I'm very loyal and u should be too. I don't mind if u check out girls but be discrete about it and don't do it while I'm with u, if I were to check out a guy there is no way that I'd display that for u to see.
• Don't be a selfish lover. I will try my best to please u and genuinely enjoy servicing u sexually so return the favor and be there for me every once in awhile. I understand that not all dudes go down, and that's ok, its not important, but put a lil care and thought into whatever else u do to try and satisfy me.
• I need u to understand that when I'm mad it is not okay to just "give me space". It shows that u don't care enough about what I'm feeling. At the same time I don't need u hounding me. I find it hard to talk when I'm upset and not cry, and I would rather rip out my eyes than cry infront of u. So ur best bet is to tell me that u care, are sorry, am not going anywhere, and that when I'm ready ur willing to discuss things. Stay close by, its reassuring to me.

(To be continued......)�