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Kate books (2025)
mæria (manga)
the traveler movies (watched ❀ 2025)
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colove ୨୧
우주소녀 ivyink
Amanda iyilik
Apartmentcat j u n o
Aspen jai
Bea jam
Bianca jax
Bliss jay
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Bru jen
Bárbara julia
Candice Austen julie
Cat julyana
Edii just a girl
Elise jéssica
EstroJen júlia
FER k
Gelly k. e. bigelow
Han kaitlin
IBelieveInPen... kales
JJ kaori
Jenni kari
Júlia katya
Kate keetanlaani
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Kay kellylouise
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Lari lagoon
Laurene lari
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Maggie laughing lady...
Matsu lauren
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Oh! letícia
Origan lie
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Rebecca liraz
Rhiannon lisa
Ryan lise
Sarah lissa
Shannon listography
Sore littlewhitehouse
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StormFyrie lois
V louise
Venisse love
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a ~ luci
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ace lulu
aivin lunna
alexandra m.
alexia maha
alexithymia maia
alice o'bright maido
ally malu
amber mapholie
ana marah
andie marcella
ane marcella
angel maria
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antoinette mezzo piano
ara meℓina and th...
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bee morimoonie
bel moute
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cariatide peaches
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colove s. n.
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elle tanja
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emi the traveler
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emma tori
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its words

Leaving out comparisons, judgments, and assumptions:

  • Practice observing judgmental thoughts and statements, saying in your mind, “A judgmental thought arose in my mind.”
  • Count judgmental thoughts and statements.
  • Replace judgmental thoughts and statements with nonjudgmental thoughts and statements.
    • Tips for replacing judgment by stating the facts:
      • 1. Describe the facts of the event or situation—only what is observed with your senses.
      • 2. Describe the consequences of the event. Keep to the facts.
      • 3. Describe your own feelings in response to the facts (remember, emotions are not judgments).
  • Observe your judgmental facial expressions, postures, and voice tones (including voice tones in your head).
  • Change judgmental expressions, postures, and voice tones.
  • Tell someone what you did today nonjudgmentally, or about an event that occurred. Stay very concrete; only relate what you observed directly.
  • Write out a nonjudgmental description of an event that prompted an emotion.
  • Write out a nonjudgmental blow-by-blow account of a particularly important episode in your day. Describe both what happened in your environment and what your thoughts, feelings, and actions were. Leave out any analysis of why something happened, or why you thought, felt, or acted as you did. Stick to the facts that you observed.
  • Imagine a person you are angry with. Bring to mind what the person has done that has caused so much anger. Try to become that person, seeing life from that person’s point of view. Imagine that person’s feelings, thoughts, fears, hopes, and wishes. Imagine that person’s history and what has happened in his or her history. Imagine understanding that person.
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