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evelyn television (07/25)
ʚɞ project research
rae 2025 (media goals)
elise ☁︎ (cool recent finds)
iyilik BIO.
우주소녀 ivyink
Amanda iyilik
Apartmentcat j u n o
Aspen jai
Bea jam
Bianca jax
Bliss jay
Brie jayne.
Bru jen
Bárbara julia
Candice Austen julie
Cat julyana
Edii just a girl
Elise jéssica
EstroJen júlia
FER k. e. bigelow
Gelly kaitlin
Han kales
IBelieveInPen... kaori
JJ kari
Jenni katya
Júlia keetanlaani
Kate kelly ୭ৎ
Katrina kellylouise
Kay koi
Kelsey kurispie
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Kiskadee lagoon
Lari lari
Laurene lataefah
Luciana laughing lady...
Maggie lauren
Matsu leo
Misha letícia
Oh! lie
Origan lila
Panda liraz
Rebecca lisa
Rhiannon lissa
Ryan listography
Sarah littlewhitehouse
Shannon liz
Sore lois
Stavros louise
StormFyrie love
V lua f.
Venisse luci
Vicky luiza
a ~ lulu
abby lunna
ace m.
aivin maha
alexandra maia
alexia maido
alexithymia malu
alice o'bright mapholie
ally marah
amber marcella
ana marcella
andie maria
ane marido
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d shakti
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em the traveler
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isabella 알바
its words

Leaving out comparisons, judgments, and assumptions:

  • Practice observing judgmental thoughts and statements, saying in your mind, “A judgmental thought arose in my mind.”
  • Count judgmental thoughts and statements.
  • Replace judgmental thoughts and statements with nonjudgmental thoughts and statements.
    • Tips for replacing judgment by stating the facts:
      • 1. Describe the facts of the event or situation—only what is observed with your senses.
      • 2. Describe the consequences of the event. Keep to the facts.
      • 3. Describe your own feelings in response to the facts (remember, emotions are not judgments).
  • Observe your judgmental facial expressions, postures, and voice tones (including voice tones in your head).
  • Change judgmental expressions, postures, and voice tones.
  • Tell someone what you did today nonjudgmentally, or about an event that occurred. Stay very concrete; only relate what you observed directly.
  • Write out a nonjudgmental description of an event that prompted an emotion.
  • Write out a nonjudgmental blow-by-blow account of a particularly important episode in your day. Describe both what happened in your environment and what your thoughts, feelings, and actions were. Leave out any analysis of why something happened, or why you thought, felt, or acted as you did. Stick to the facts that you observed.
  • Imagine a person you are angry with. Bring to mind what the person has done that has caused so much anger. Try to become that person, seeing life from that person’s point of view. Imagine that person’s feelings, thoughts, fears, hopes, and wishes. Imagine that person’s history and what has happened in his or her history. Imagine understanding that person.
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